•   Wash and brush your hair. Don’t leave it messy or stringy.

•   I think hats are an obstruction, they hide hair and cover part of the face. My suggestion for what it’s worth: either don’t wear a hat. Or if you do wear one, let at least some of your hair hang out of it.

Then simultaneously emphasize that men do desire beautiful women. What is this? Are we still in the 1950s? I thought this was 2019…

That attitude is plain wrong. I really think women are attracted to men’s appearance. Just as often as men are drawn to women’s visual beauty.

Though some people are less visual, ie not interested in looks. But ‘non-visuals’ are not women only. They’re a percentage of all humans. And on the opposite end, whenever you think of men as visual creatures who like beautiful women, remember there are likely just as many women who are also visual.

A gal who likes guys visually, is just as capable of appreciating a guy for his other qualities and personality, at the same time. She is not “shallow” or “childish.” Similar to how, you probably have liked a girl before, because she was both pretty and interesting.

Why Men’s Hair is Overlooked

I think most people don’t realize that hair is what makes guys desirable. Because we rarely see handsome guys in our culture. Usually only women are considered beautiful.

I used to not understand why only a small few guys were attractive to me. I could only tell a few had something about them, for some reason and I couldn’t tell why. I eventually figured out it was their hair. I simply felt nothing for guys with buzz cuts, or very short cuts.

Television and media may trick you. Men in media are more likely to have hairstyles a few inches long. Though not always. Tv makes it appear as though, good-looking men in our culture are more prevalent than they really are. While guys in real life tend to think that being attractive is only a woman’s role.

Body Hair

Body hair looks ok, in my opinion at least. It’s not as bad as facial hair, because it doesn’t hide the face. And personally, I think both men and women look weird without pubic hair,(*7) or armpit hair. No offense.

Body

If you want to have a nice looking body, do what you can to take care of it. Have good hygiene (brush your teeth, shower, the obvious.) Take care of your health, get exercise. Try to stay in shape if possible. Or if not, just take care of your health as best as you can. Try not to ruin your shape by drinking alcohol too often, etc. Different body types can be sexy.

Being Skinny is not a Shame

Is it true that, a guy’s sex appeal is defined by how much muscle he has?

Hell No…

Just like women don’t need to have their breasts ballooned up, in order to be attractive. Men also don’t actually need their muscles ballooned up, either. Why do both those things remain a commercial trend? I don’t know.

From my perspective, slender toned bodies look more healthy than bulky ones. If you are a skinny guy, your body is actually quite sexy as it is. People still circulate the myth that it’s shameful to be skinny. But it’s actually more natural looking.

Getting regular exercise and taking care of your health is the best goal. Normal exercise tends to create lean, more natural looking muscle. Instead of large muscles. Steroids are usually what cause the large, puffy muscles you see on tv and other media.

PS I really think it doesn’t matter whether you’re short or tall, either. Some people may have a preference. But if you’re attractive, then height doesn’t make much difference overall.

If you already have a heavy-lifter’s build, then don’t let this blog worry you. Some people seem to have a fetish for muscular dudes. But I think there is no need for large muscles to be the ultimate goal for everyone.

Dear People who Hate advice on how to be a sexy guy:

This advice does not mean that girls like guys only for their looks. It’s not any more shallow than guys who like pretty girls, the latter which most people don’t have any problem with. And it’s not meant to convince any person to obsessively be better looking than all other gorgeous people. A guy doesn’t have to appear more attractive than everyone else, in order to “get the girl.” It just helps to be attractive in general. And take care of one’s appearance in these very basic ways.

I also don’t think people should insult others for their appearance, whether they look good or not. Nor judge who their friends are, or their social status based on looks. This is only personal advice, for any guy to read for himself. It’s not promoting hatred or abuse.

If for some strange reason, it makes you angry to read an article that encourages men to be visually attractive for women. (Equal pleasure between men and women? You’re right, that makes no sense. What was I thinking. *Sarcasm!) Then read the Frequently Asked Questions. For answers to your complaints. Start with FAQ #1.

In the faq I compare giving advice on being visually attractive, to giving advice on oral sex. Both are superficial and physical. Both are for men and women alike. Both are something men might want to know how to do to please women. If oral sex advice is acceptable to give men, then so should be appearance advice for those who are interested.

Next, a section on personality, and some other points.

Your Personality is a Cup of Tea

A lot of people ask me, “but what about personality?”

The blatant (but incomplete) answer to this, is it’s always best to be a decent person. It’s only a myth that women like guys who are jerks. Many guys may be jerks to women, but we do not like that at all. When guys are jerks, it’s because they choose to be, not because we choose that.

For instance, if you look down on women, and are trying to learn how to “get” them for a score, then I’d prefer you don’t read this advice blog. You are not making yourself special by making things worse for people who are already marginalized. Even though I can’t know who reads this blog, advice here is for guys who want to be pleasing to gals, if possible.

But is it incredibly shallow to talk about men’s appearance? The topic of this blog may be physical attraction, but that doesn’t mean I’m saying personality doesn’t matter.

Here’s a way of looking at it. Your own personality is like a a cup of herbal tea, with a unique blend of herbs, spices, or flavors. Your appearance is like the sugar or sweetener in that tea. The sweetener brings out the flavor. Have you ever tasted a cup of tea that was not sweetened? It tastes like dull water, with undiscernable flavors.

In comparison, if I may get poetic. A guy with a buzzcut looks to me the way a cup of tea tastes with no sweetener.

That’s why appearance is not an insult to personality. One compliments the other. And some people may like unsweetened tea, which is fine. But I think as a whole the assumption is too often that men like a flavorful, sweet drink metaphorically. But women should only desire tea with no sugar.

Most importantly, some guys simply want to know how to ‘serve a good cup of tea’ (speaking in metaphor again.) Which is what this blog is about.

What Flavor Tea?

Going back to the hair idea, and combining it with the concept of personality: I think long/longish hair can go with any personality. It looks good on athletes, intellectuals, nerds, freaks, musicians, professionals, artists, ordinary guys, and anyone.

It’s a stereotype that having long locks is for musicians. Notice how it’s been said that women really like musicians for some reason? Without realizing that’s actually because musicians are more likely to have long hair. Being a musician is great. But non-musicians can also be sexy with their long locks, and whatever their hobbies and personalities are.

For masculine guys: If you see yourself as very masculine, then taking care of your appearance won’t stop you from being masculine. And as said before, if you just grow your hair down to your ears, it still looks like a guy’s haircut.

For guys with glasses: Are you worried that glasses make you unattractive? Try growing your hair out- and taking the rest of this advice. You can be gorgeous with long(ish) hair, while also wearing glasses!(*9)

The Basics vs Everything Else

This blog was meant to offer only basic tips. And though there’s other advice out there, be wary of pick-up artists. They tend to encourage men to mentally abuse women, covertly. Which I discourage, and think you should instead be appealing to women.

Most advice for men, goes completely around any discussion of these basic elements. And how hair is a beneficial evolutionary trait. Hence, their readers don’t learn much valuable info. The lack of real knowledge is probably why pick up artists became sharks to that market.

Besides that, sometimes love or relationship articles gives helpful tips, and sometimes they don’t. Many authors will suggest things that don’t really matter. Such as, having a nice car, or being tall. And again, an large number of writers -especially puas- falsely claim that women are not attracted to a guy’s appearance.

Want to Sleep Around?

More on things that ladies may like: If you’ve read the other advice for men out there, you probably know that a majority of pick up artists encourage guys to attempt at tricking many of women into sleeping with them. Assuming that that is what the typical male wants to do with women. From what I understand, that’s not actually what most guys want. However, if that happens to be what you want, then here are some suggestions.

Don’t just assume that sexual pleasure, or multiple partners, is only for you because you’re a (selfish) guy. If you prefer multiple partners, then find gals who also want to sleep with multiple guys. Use a condom every time. Don’t be dishonest or manipulative. Always get consent first. Focus on her pleasure as much as yours. Bonus points if you bring a cute guy friend for an mmf threesome!***

Disclaimer:
None of this is meant to get you any girl you want. Or make rejection never happen to you. Think of it as just an awesome bonus. Share this advice with other guys you know.

A Bonus for Ladies:
I don’t know whether the following suggestion would work out well for most gals. I just hope that it could.

If you’re a woman, girl, gay guy. If you ever have a guy friend who likes you. Who you like just a little, but not sure you’re that into him. Because you don’t feel much physical attraction. Then you notice his hair is very very short. I’ve been there.

You can optionally share this article’s advice with him. Unfortunately, there are guys who get angry when they hear that women like visually attractive men. So maybe this is a bad suggestion.

You could always just send this page’s url to someone, as a link. howtobeanattractiveguy.com

*Note to gay or bisexual men:

I realize a lot of this -especially the faq section below- is centered on straight relationships between men/women. My experience with most troubles discussing these ideas, stem from a cultural bias against women expressing their wants and needs with men.

I did not have enough experience to write about relationships between men who like men – spare a few attempts. But these male beauty tips may still be helpful for you, regardless whether you’re into guys or gals. Or any gender in between. So hope you enjoyed them as well.

*1 – http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2110272/Psychologists-confirm-Women-REALLY-dont-like-beards.html
*2 – http://www.womenshealthmag.com/sex-and-love/online-dating-with-no-facial-hair-a-beard-and-a-goatee

*4 http://www.manlycurls.com/2013/05/hair-evolutionary-role-society-men-women/
– http://rstb.royalsocietypublishing.org/content/366/1571/1638 Figure 4.
– en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Physical_attractiveness#Hair

*12 – http://www.stmarys-ca.edu/bro-culture-misogyny-and-gender-violence-in-the-real-world